You guys sure know how passionate am I about food, instead of having it to myself, I've decided to share it with everyone......go have a look at http://makanhunter.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Makan Hunter
You guys sure know how passionate am I about food, instead of having it to myself, I've decided to share it with everyone......go have a look at http://makanhunter.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Tough JOLIE
Monday, November 21, 2005
Friday, November 18, 2005
Authentic FOOD...yumm..
TRADITIONAL YAM RICE. Its really authentic!!!It has been a long time since I ate at this place.Simply because school ends at 2.05pm and this old couple only sells lunch from Monday to Friday. Hard Luck for me..... Its the holidays now,so I took the oppurtunity!
People actually still squat to eat !!! Thought you'll never see it again?or never even thought that people eat like that?There is still a few more places in town where they still squat to eat.Just refer to the thumb. Actually this was just trishaw puller's(that's why your parents scold you "lan cia lo" when you put your legs on the chair when you sit) lunch hang out place long time ago but human are always on-the-go for great food so it became famous.
Just in case you guys want to pay this stall a visit, it is situated near Lebuh Presgraves(more known as "sa diao lo").Just turn left at the first junction in Lebuh Presgraves and you'll see a stall with blue shades like what you see in the thumbnail.
We ordered Yam Rice with four dishes which consisted Egg Soup,Raddish Soup,Fried Fish & Prawns and "Dao Eu Bak"(pork cooked with soya sauce).Everything was superb but the specialty is the Egg Soup.I bet most of you never savoured the taste of a bowl of egg soup,its really hard to guess how they cook eggs with soup,normally it would go hay wire. Actually I've made a detail description of all the food but it was deleted accidentally and I'm too lazy to retype the whole thing,I shall let the pictures do the talking!
| Slow and Steady |
 Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, a slow and steady plodder. It'd really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment. They expect you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then usually decide against it. |
Difference between American Education and Chinese Education
This is taken from a chinese forum.This is written by a chinese quoting about her son's education in America.Sorry if you can't read chinese.
[转帖]美国人竟然是这样教育小学生美国人教育孩子方式。 当我把九岁的儿子带到美国，送他进那所离公寓不远的美国小学的时候，我就象是把自己最心爱的东西交给了一个我并不信任的人去保管，终日忧心忡忡。这是一种什么样的学校啊！学生可以在课堂上放声大笑，每天至少让学生玩二个小时，下午不到三点就放学回家，最让我大开眼界的是没有教科书。
那个金发碧眼的美国女教师看见了我儿子带去的中国小学四年级课本后，温文尔雅地说：“我可以告诉你，六年级以前，他的数学不用学了！”面对她充满善意的笑脸，我就像挨了一闷棍。一时间，真怀疑把儿子带到美国来是不是干了一生最蠢的一件事。
日子一天一天过去，看着儿子每天背着空空的书包兴高采烈的去上学，我的心就止不住一片哀伤。在中国，他从小学一年级开始，书包就满满的、沉沉的，从一年级到四年级换了三个书包，一个比一个大，让人感到“知识”的重量在增加。而在美国，他没了负担，这能叫上学吗？一个学期过去了，把儿子叫到面前，问他美国学校给他最深的印象是什么，他笑着给我一句美国英语：“自由！”这两个字像砖头一样拍在我的脑门上。 此时，真是一片深情怀念中国教育。似乎更加深刻地理解了为什么中国孩子老是能在国际上拿奥林匹克学习竞赛的金牌。不过，事已致此？也只能听天由命。
不知不觉一年过去了，儿子的英语长进不少，放学后也不直接回家了，而是常去图书馆，不时就背回一大书包的书来。问他一次借这么多书干什么，他一边看着借来的书一边打着电脑，头也不抬地说：“作业。”
这叫作业吗？一看孩子打在电脑屏幕上的标题，我真有些哭笑不得――《中国的昨天和今天》，这样大的题目，即使是博士，敢去做吗？
于是我严声厉色地问是谁的主意，儿子坦然相告：老师说美国是移民国家，让每个同学写一篇介绍自己祖先生活的国度的文章。要求概括这个国家的历史、地理、文化，分析它与美国的不同，说明自己的看法。我听了，连叹息的力气也没有了，我真不知道让一个十岁的孩子去做这样一个连成年人也未必能做的工程，会是一种什么结果？只觉得一个十岁的孩子如果被教育得不知天高地厚，以后恐怕是连吃饭的本事也没有了。过了几天，儿子就完成了这篇作业。没想到，打印出来的是一本二十多页的小册子。从九曲黄河到象形文字，从丝路到五星红旗……热热闹闹。我没赞成，也没批评，因为我自己有点发楞，一是因为我看见儿子把这篇文章分出了章与节，二是在文章最后列出了参考书目。我想，这是我读研究生之后才运用的写作方式，那时，我三十岁。
不久，儿子的另一篇作文又出来了。这次是《我怎么看人类文化》。如果说上次的作业还有范围可循，这次真可谓不着边际了。儿子真诚地问我：“饺子是文化吗？”为了不耽误后代，我只好和儿子一起查阅权威的工具书。费了一番气力，我们完成了从抽象到具体又从具体到抽象的反反覆覆的折腾，儿子又是几个晚上坐在电脑前煞有介事地作文章。我看他那专心致志的样子，不禁心中苦笑，一个小学生，怎么去理解“文化”这个内涵无限丰富而外延又无法确定的概念呢？但愿对“吃”兴趣无穷的儿子别在饺子、包子上大作文章。在美国教育中已经变得无拘无束的儿子无疑是把文章作出来了，这次打印出来的是十页，又是自己的封面，文章后面又列着一本本的参考书。他洋洋得意地对我说：“你说什么是文化？其实超简单――就是人创造出来让人享受的一切。”那自信的样子，似乎发现了别人没能发现的真理。后来，孩子把老师看过的作业带回来，上面有老师的批语：“我安排本次作业的初衷是让孩子们开阔眼界，活跃思维，而读他们作业的结果，往往是我进入了我希望孩子们进入的境界。”问儿子这批语是什么意思。
儿子说，老师没为我们感到骄傲，但是她为我们感到震惊。“是不是？”儿子问我。
我无言以对，我觉得这孩子怎么一下子懂了这么多事？再一想，也难怪，连文化的题目都敢作的孩子，还有什么不敢断言的事吗？
儿子六年级快结束时，老师留给他们的作业是一串关于“二次世界大战”的问题。“你认为谁对这场战争负有责任？”“你认为纳粹德国失败的原因是什么？”“如果你是杜鲁门总统的高级顾问，你将对美国投原子弹持什么态度？”“你是否认为当时只有投放原子弹一个办法去结束战争？”“你认为今天避免战争的最好办法是什么？”――如果是两年前，见到这种问题，我肯定会抱怨：这哪里是作业，分明是竞选参议员的前期训练！而此时，我已经能平心静气地循思其中的道理了。 学校和老师正是在这一个个设问之中，向孩子们传输一种人道主义的价值观，引导孩子们去关注人类的命运，让孩子们学习思考重大问题的方法。这些问题在课堂上都没有标准答案，它的答案，有些可能需要孩子们用一生去寻索。看着十二岁的儿子为完成这些作业兴致勃勃地看书查资料的样子，我不禁想起当年我学二战史的样子，按照年代事件死记应背，书中的结论明知迂腐也当成《圣经》去记，不然，怎么通过考试去奔光明前程呢？此时我在想，我们在追求知识的过程中，重复前人的结论往往大大多于自己的思考。而没有自己的思考，就难有新的创造。
儿子小学毕业的时候，已经能够熟练地在图书馆利用电脑和微缩胶片系统查找他所需要的各种文字和图象资料了。有一天，我们俩为狮子和豹的觅食习性争论起来。第二天，他就从图书馆借来了美国国家地理学会拍摄的介绍这种动物的录像带，拉着我一边看，一边讨论。孩子面对他不懂的东西，已经知道到哪里里去寻找答案了。 儿子的变化促使我重新去看美国的小学教育。我发现，美国的小学虽然没有在课堂上对孩子们进行大量的知识灌输，但是他们想方设法把孩子的目光引向校外那个无边无际的知识海洋，他们要让孩子知道，生活的一切时间和空间都是他们学习的课堂；他们没有让孩子去死记硬背大量的公式和定理，但是，他们煞费苦心地告诉孩子怎样去思考问题，教给孩子们面对陌生领域寻找答案的方法；他们从不用考试把学生分成三六九等，而是竭尽全力去肯定孩子们一切努力，去赞扬孩子们自己思考的一切结论，去保护和激励孩子们所有的创作欲望和尝试。 有一次，我问儿子的老师：“你们怎么不让孩子背记一些重要的东西呢？”老师笑着说：“对人的创造能力中有两个东西比死记硬背更重要：一个是他要知道到哪里去寻找所需要的比它能够记忆的多得多的知识；再一个是他综合使用这些知识进行新的创造的能力。死记硬背，就不会让一个人知识丰富，也不会让一个人变得聪明，这就是我的观点。”我不禁记起我的一个好朋友和我的一次谈话。他学的是天文学，从走进美国大学研究所的第一天起，到拿下博士学位的整整五年，他一直以优异的成绩享受系里提供的优厚奖学金。他曾对我说：“我觉得很奇怪，要是凭课堂上的学习成绩拿奖学金，美国人常常不是中国人的对手，可是一到实践领域，搞点研究性题目，中国学生往往没有美国学生那么机灵，那么富有创造性。”我想，他的感受可能正是两种不同的基础教育体系所造成的人之间的差异。中国人太习惯于在一个划定的框子里去旅展拳脚了，一旦失去了常规的参照，对不少中国人来说感到的可能往往并不是自由，而是慌恐和茫然。
我常常想到中国的小学教育，想到那些课堂上双手背后坐得笔直的孩子们，想到那些沉重的课程、繁多的作业、严格的考试……它让人感到一种神圣与威严的同时，也让人感到巨大的压抑和束缚，但是多少代人都顺从着它的意志，把它视为一种改变命运的出路。这是一种文化的延续，它或许有着自身的辉煌，但是面对需要每个人发挥创造力的信息社会，面对明天的世界，我们又该怎样审视这种孕育了我们自身的文明呢？
[转帖]美国人竟然是这样教育小学生美国人教育孩子方式。 当我把九岁的儿子带到美国，送他进那所离公寓不远的美国小学的时候，我就象是把自己最心爱的东西交给了一个我并不信任的人去保管，终日忧心忡忡。这是一种什么样的学校啊！学生可以在课堂上放声大笑，每天至少让学生玩二个小时，下午不到三点就放学回家，最让我大开眼界的是没有教科书。
那个金发碧眼的美国女教师看见了我儿子带去的中国小学四年级课本后，温文尔雅地说：“我可以告诉你，六年级以前，他的数学不用学了！”面对她充满善意的笑脸，我就像挨了一闷棍。一时间，真怀疑把儿子带到美国来是不是干了一生最蠢的一件事。
日子一天一天过去，看着儿子每天背着空空的书包兴高采烈的去上学，我的心就止不住一片哀伤。在中国，他从小学一年级开始，书包就满满的、沉沉的，从一年级到四年级换了三个书包，一个比一个大，让人感到“知识”的重量在增加。而在美国，他没了负担，这能叫上学吗？一个学期过去了，把儿子叫到面前，问他美国学校给他最深的印象是什么，他笑着给我一句美国英语：“自由！”这两个字像砖头一样拍在我的脑门上。 此时，真是一片深情怀念中国教育。似乎更加深刻地理解了为什么中国孩子老是能在国际上拿奥林匹克学习竞赛的金牌。不过，事已致此？也只能听天由命。
不知不觉一年过去了，儿子的英语长进不少，放学后也不直接回家了，而是常去图书馆，不时就背回一大书包的书来。问他一次借这么多书干什么，他一边看着借来的书一边打着电脑，头也不抬地说：“作业。”
这叫作业吗？一看孩子打在电脑屏幕上的标题，我真有些哭笑不得――《中国的昨天和今天》，这样大的题目，即使是博士，敢去做吗？
于是我严声厉色地问是谁的主意，儿子坦然相告：老师说美国是移民国家，让每个同学写一篇介绍自己祖先生活的国度的文章。要求概括这个国家的历史、地理、文化，分析它与美国的不同，说明自己的看法。我听了，连叹息的力气也没有了，我真不知道让一个十岁的孩子去做这样一个连成年人也未必能做的工程，会是一种什么结果？只觉得一个十岁的孩子如果被教育得不知天高地厚，以后恐怕是连吃饭的本事也没有了。过了几天，儿子就完成了这篇作业。没想到，打印出来的是一本二十多页的小册子。从九曲黄河到象形文字，从丝路到五星红旗……热热闹闹。我没赞成，也没批评，因为我自己有点发楞，一是因为我看见儿子把这篇文章分出了章与节，二是在文章最后列出了参考书目。我想，这是我读研究生之后才运用的写作方式，那时，我三十岁。
不久，儿子的另一篇作文又出来了。这次是《我怎么看人类文化》。如果说上次的作业还有范围可循，这次真可谓不着边际了。儿子真诚地问我：“饺子是文化吗？”为了不耽误后代，我只好和儿子一起查阅权威的工具书。费了一番气力，我们完成了从抽象到具体又从具体到抽象的反反覆覆的折腾，儿子又是几个晚上坐在电脑前煞有介事地作文章。我看他那专心致志的样子，不禁心中苦笑，一个小学生，怎么去理解“文化”这个内涵无限丰富而外延又无法确定的概念呢？但愿对“吃”兴趣无穷的儿子别在饺子、包子上大作文章。在美国教育中已经变得无拘无束的儿子无疑是把文章作出来了，这次打印出来的是十页，又是自己的封面，文章后面又列着一本本的参考书。他洋洋得意地对我说：“你说什么是文化？其实超简单――就是人创造出来让人享受的一切。”那自信的样子，似乎发现了别人没能发现的真理。后来，孩子把老师看过的作业带回来，上面有老师的批语：“我安排本次作业的初衷是让孩子们开阔眼界，活跃思维，而读他们作业的结果，往往是我进入了我希望孩子们进入的境界。”问儿子这批语是什么意思。
儿子说，老师没为我们感到骄傲，但是她为我们感到震惊。“是不是？”儿子问我。
我无言以对，我觉得这孩子怎么一下子懂了这么多事？再一想，也难怪，连文化的题目都敢作的孩子，还有什么不敢断言的事吗？
儿子六年级快结束时，老师留给他们的作业是一串关于“二次世界大战”的问题。“你认为谁对这场战争负有责任？”“你认为纳粹德国失败的原因是什么？”“如果你是杜鲁门总统的高级顾问，你将对美国投原子弹持什么态度？”“你是否认为当时只有投放原子弹一个办法去结束战争？”“你认为今天避免战争的最好办法是什么？”――如果是两年前，见到这种问题，我肯定会抱怨：这哪里是作业，分明是竞选参议员的前期训练！而此时，我已经能平心静气地循思其中的道理了。 学校和老师正是在这一个个设问之中，向孩子们传输一种人道主义的价值观，引导孩子们去关注人类的命运，让孩子们学习思考重大问题的方法。这些问题在课堂上都没有标准答案，它的答案，有些可能需要孩子们用一生去寻索。看着十二岁的儿子为完成这些作业兴致勃勃地看书查资料的样子，我不禁想起当年我学二战史的样子，按照年代事件死记应背，书中的结论明知迂腐也当成《圣经》去记，不然，怎么通过考试去奔光明前程呢？此时我在想，我们在追求知识的过程中，重复前人的结论往往大大多于自己的思考。而没有自己的思考，就难有新的创造。
儿子小学毕业的时候，已经能够熟练地在图书馆利用电脑和微缩胶片系统查找他所需要的各种文字和图象资料了。有一天，我们俩为狮子和豹的觅食习性争论起来。第二天，他就从图书馆借来了美国国家地理学会拍摄的介绍这种动物的录像带，拉着我一边看，一边讨论。孩子面对他不懂的东西，已经知道到哪里里去寻找答案了。 儿子的变化促使我重新去看美国的小学教育。我发现，美国的小学虽然没有在课堂上对孩子们进行大量的知识灌输，但是他们想方设法把孩子的目光引向校外那个无边无际的知识海洋，他们要让孩子知道，生活的一切时间和空间都是他们学习的课堂；他们没有让孩子去死记硬背大量的公式和定理，但是，他们煞费苦心地告诉孩子怎样去思考问题，教给孩子们面对陌生领域寻找答案的方法；他们从不用考试把学生分成三六九等，而是竭尽全力去肯定孩子们一切努力，去赞扬孩子们自己思考的一切结论，去保护和激励孩子们所有的创作欲望和尝试。 有一次，我问儿子的老师：“你们怎么不让孩子背记一些重要的东西呢？”老师笑着说：“对人的创造能力中有两个东西比死记硬背更重要：一个是他要知道到哪里去寻找所需要的比它能够记忆的多得多的知识；再一个是他综合使用这些知识进行新的创造的能力。死记硬背，就不会让一个人知识丰富，也不会让一个人变得聪明，这就是我的观点。”我不禁记起我的一个好朋友和我的一次谈话。他学的是天文学，从走进美国大学研究所的第一天起，到拿下博士学位的整整五年，他一直以优异的成绩享受系里提供的优厚奖学金。他曾对我说：“我觉得很奇怪，要是凭课堂上的学习成绩拿奖学金，美国人常常不是中国人的对手，可是一到实践领域，搞点研究性题目，中国学生往往没有美国学生那么机灵，那么富有创造性。”我想，他的感受可能正是两种不同的基础教育体系所造成的人之间的差异。中国人太习惯于在一个划定的框子里去旅展拳脚了，一旦失去了常规的参照，对不少中国人来说感到的可能往往并不是自由，而是慌恐和茫然。
我常常想到中国的小学教育，想到那些课堂上双手背后坐得笔直的孩子们，想到那些沉重的课程、繁多的作业、严格的考试……它让人感到一种神圣与威严的同时，也让人感到巨大的压抑和束缚，但是多少代人都顺从着它的意志，把它视为一种改变命运的出路。这是一种文化的延续，它或许有着自身的辉煌，但是面对需要每个人发挥创造力的信息社会，面对明天的世界，我们又该怎样审视这种孕育了我们自身的文明呢？
Thursday, November 17, 2005
"If You Don't Feel Comfortable Approaching Women..."
If you don't feel 100 percent comfortable withapproaching women right now...it's totally okay. Don't let it stop yourself from doing it. The only thing you have to fear is fear itself.
A boxing champion has once said that even the greatest boxer wakes up in fear on the day of a tournament. But the difference between a champion and a boxer-wannabe is that the champion gets into the ring IN SPITE OF HIS FEAR.
The loser just quits.
Don't try to "repress" your fears. Be the champion and fight on! The bottom line is...you're never a loser until you quit and give up or start blaming other people or things such as shyness.
Too many guys don't do anything because they're too afraid to. Or they want to wait until they're "more confident".
Don't be one of them. Go out NOW and start DOING!
It's like what they say in the marines, "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger."
If you learn to look at the BIGGER PICTURE (of yourself picking up the skills to become a master at dating) and NOT WORRY about the outcome of an encounter with a particular woman,then you'll see how every approach and every date is essentially just another TRAINING SESSION.
Don't let "fear" get into the way. A friend of mine once told me that he was scared when he went away to bootcamp and got"chewed out" the first time. But he eventually got out of bootcamp as a more confident and more confident man - and he had managed to pick up many skills that would be valuable to him for the rest of his life.
Speaking of skills, your "fear" won't affect the outcomeof a situation with a woman. In the boxing ring, ultimately it's the SKILL of the champion boxer that wins him the match. He WINS in spite of his fear. He analyzes his own mistakes and turns his weak areas into his strengths. That's what you should be doing!
Remember: "Confidence" comes from "competency", which in turn comes from PRACTICE!
A boxing champion has once said that even the greatest boxer wakes up in fear on the day of a tournament. But the difference between a champion and a boxer-wannabe is that the champion gets into the ring IN SPITE OF HIS FEAR.
The loser just quits.
Don't try to "repress" your fears. Be the champion and fight on! The bottom line is...you're never a loser until you quit and give up or start blaming other people or things such as shyness.
Too many guys don't do anything because they're too afraid to. Or they want to wait until they're "more confident".
Don't be one of them. Go out NOW and start DOING!
It's like what they say in the marines, "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger."
If you learn to look at the BIGGER PICTURE (of yourself picking up the skills to become a master at dating) and NOT WORRY about the outcome of an encounter with a particular woman,then you'll see how every approach and every date is essentially just another TRAINING SESSION.
Don't let "fear" get into the way. A friend of mine once told me that he was scared when he went away to bootcamp and got"chewed out" the first time. But he eventually got out of bootcamp as a more confident and more confident man - and he had managed to pick up many skills that would be valuable to him for the rest of his life.
Speaking of skills, your "fear" won't affect the outcomeof a situation with a woman. In the boxing ring, ultimately it's the SKILL of the champion boxer that wins him the match. He WINS in spite of his fear. He analyzes his own mistakes and turns his weak areas into his strengths. That's what you should be doing!
Remember: "Confidence" comes from "competency", which in turn comes from PRACTICE!
Wednesday, November 16, 2005
HOW TO GIVE YOUR CHILD A HEALTHY ATTITUDE ABOUT MASTURBATION
By Chris
[The author of this article, "Chris," has four adopted sons, ages 22, 19, 19, and 9. He's worked in emergency medicine for almost ten years and has a BS in Special Education and Psychology. A single parent, Chris is active in his sons' sports groups and Catholic youth groups, and he enjoys computers, reading, and nature.]
I always wanted my children to be well-rounded and to have healthy self-esteems. It was no problem letting them learn about their bodies as toddlers — exploring their hands, feet, etc. It was also a given that when they were very young, they were to be encouraged to develop their minds and creativity, and that their privacy was to be respected, allowing them to be creative without interfering. After all, when a kid says, "Don't look — I'm making you something special," you don't look, right? But then along comes adolescence and the next phase of development: their sexuality.
This is probably the hardest one to deal with, as it means our children are growing up, and that they're experiencing the last phase before they leave us as adults. It also means looking at our children in a different light — as individuals with feelings and desires similar to adults'. To complicate matters, these feelings and desires may be ones we ourselves are not comfortable with. However, for our children, we must be able to address these issues and then honestly and openly deal with them. If you have cultivated an open relationship with your children, this should be an easy transition. They have always trusted you to provide the information and skills needed to grow, and this aspect of their development should be no exception.
When your children were infants, you probably read books on parenting. When they started going to school, books on helping them to achieve and succeed were probably on your reading list. Perhaps books on parenting styles have been on the list as well. Now it is time to read about sexuality and human development. There are several excellent books available at your local bookstore — and personal preferences and values should be your guide to selecting them. By reading the information, you will be prepared to answer the questions your children will have. And trust me, if you have kept open communication with them, they will have questions.
Sex education should begin at an early age, when the children first start asking questions, which is usually around the age of three or four. If you appear comfortable when answering their questions at this time, then as questions arise later, the children will feel safe and comfortable asking them. We've guided the kids through the other developmental stages, and I feel we owe it to them to be there to assist with this stage as well. There is a tremendous responsibility on our part to provide appropriate information and direction for children at this stage in their lives, as it forms their attitudes toward sexuality and their feelings about sex in general. By having an accepting and open attitude, they will have less guilt associated with sexuality. Setting the stage now for positive attitudes toward sex will allow your children to have those positive feelings as adults.
If, on the other hand, you make sexuality a shameful, hush-hush topic, then your children will learn to associate sexuality with shame and embarrassment. And if your children have questions at this stage and do not feel comfortable asking you, then who will provide the answers for them? The misinformation they get from their friends can ruin their lives with unwanted pregnancies. It can also lead to them contracting diseases that can last a lifetime (and even prove fatal). We need to take the time to explain the facts, answer questions, and aid them in developing a healthy attitude about sexuality.
Instilling in our children a healthy attitude about sex is a great gift to give them. It will allow them to express their love with the person they love without feelings of guilt or shame. The terms you use with them, also, are as important as the information you give them. If you use the words you used when they were younger, your children may feel belittled, or they may feel the information is for babies and not for them. Using the correct terms and explaining the terminology will give you greater credibility, and you will gain more respect from them, than if you try to use the "cute" terms.
The facts you provide should include information about masturbation. You've given them the freedom to explore other areas of their bodies as they've developed — now you need to give them the freedom to explore this area as well. Masturbation allows for the release of the sexual tension they feel, and it allows them to determine what kinds of stimulation they like and what they do not like — the areas they like stimulated and the areas they do not. Eventually, this will also allow them to learn the masturbation pace they like, which will help them learn to delay their orgasm — and learning to delay their pleasure will give them the ability to make sure their partner later in life has a chance to achieve their pleasure, too.
Discussing masturbation with your children can be difficult — and if you haven't prepared for it, it will probably be an uncomfortable discussion. Preplanning the conversation is important; thinking about what you want to say and how you want to say it will make for an easier time. Explain that masturbation is a healthy normal activity; mention that probably all of their friends will masturbate, and that you understand they will masturbate, too. You probably won't need to say a lot about technique, except to say there are many ways to do it. Practice saying what you want to discuss out loud, so you can hear yourself using the words and phrases. This will make you more relaxed when you're discussing it later with your children.
This is also is a good time to discuss privacy. Tell them you understand as they grow up and their bodies change that they may want more privacy. Let them know you'll respect their right to privacy by honoring closed doors. Offering to place a lock on their bedroom door will show you mean what you say. Respecting their privacy also means that if you notice stains on underwear or other clothing, or if there's an increased use of tissues, lotions, or Vaseline, that you won't mention it. Keeping those supplies available and replenished will show, in a quiet way, that you know what they are doing and approve.
When you start this discussion, make sure you're in a place comfortable for both of you. Also, be sure it's a location where you will not be disturbed by distractions, such as TV or the radio. Starting out with small talk and moving into the discussion can also be helpful. In starting the actual discussion, you may want to stress that you know this could be an uncomfortable topic but that you will not make any judgments or react negatively. Additionally, explain that you feel it's important to have this discussion, and explain why.
During the talk, make sure to give your children plenty of time to express themselves. They may want to voice an opinion or ask questions — and if you do not allow them time, it becomes a lecture and not a discussion. Also, flying through the talk gives your children the impression that you do not really mean what you are saying — that you just want to get it over with, or that you are really uncomfortable with the topic. Discussing sexuality in a relaxed way, and really listening to what your child is saying during the discussion, will make it a successful talk.
Close the discussion with an agreement that the child will come to you if he or she has questions. This will make further discussion easier. It's a good idea to provide some reading materials; for males, for example, I recommend The What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras [Newmarket Press]. Pointing them to online resources (such as JackinWorld) may also prove helpful; depending on the relationship you have with your child, you may want to try looking at the page together. During the closing, reaffirm the agreement to respect privacy. End on a positive note by saying, "Is there anything else you would like to talk about or discuss?" You may be surprised at what other topics your child may want to bring up.
Having an open discussion on masturbation sets the stage for the discussion of sex later. If your children know you are willing to discuss things with them, and that you have non-judgmentally done so before, makes it much easier for them to come to you if they're concerned about something. Open, honest, and effective communication can only enhance your relationship with your children.
In closing, I would like to say that I hope everyone takes the time to have a discussion with his or her children about masturbation. However, educating ourselves first is the key to having a positive dialog. If the child asks something you do not have an answer for, don't be afraid — it's fine to say, "I'm not sure, but I'll find out the answer for you." Providing a relaxed environment with an open attitude will help to make this discussion a success — and allowing your children to explore this last area of their development will help them to be healthy and happy adults.
[The author of this article, "Chris," has four adopted sons, ages 22, 19, 19, and 9. He's worked in emergency medicine for almost ten years and has a BS in Special Education and Psychology. A single parent, Chris is active in his sons' sports groups and Catholic youth groups, and he enjoys computers, reading, and nature.]
I always wanted my children to be well-rounded and to have healthy self-esteems. It was no problem letting them learn about their bodies as toddlers — exploring their hands, feet, etc. It was also a given that when they were very young, they were to be encouraged to develop their minds and creativity, and that their privacy was to be respected, allowing them to be creative without interfering. After all, when a kid says, "Don't look — I'm making you something special," you don't look, right? But then along comes adolescence and the next phase of development: their sexuality.
This is probably the hardest one to deal with, as it means our children are growing up, and that they're experiencing the last phase before they leave us as adults. It also means looking at our children in a different light — as individuals with feelings and desires similar to adults'. To complicate matters, these feelings and desires may be ones we ourselves are not comfortable with. However, for our children, we must be able to address these issues and then honestly and openly deal with them. If you have cultivated an open relationship with your children, this should be an easy transition. They have always trusted you to provide the information and skills needed to grow, and this aspect of their development should be no exception.
When your children were infants, you probably read books on parenting. When they started going to school, books on helping them to achieve and succeed were probably on your reading list. Perhaps books on parenting styles have been on the list as well. Now it is time to read about sexuality and human development. There are several excellent books available at your local bookstore — and personal preferences and values should be your guide to selecting them. By reading the information, you will be prepared to answer the questions your children will have. And trust me, if you have kept open communication with them, they will have questions.
Sex education should begin at an early age, when the children first start asking questions, which is usually around the age of three or four. If you appear comfortable when answering their questions at this time, then as questions arise later, the children will feel safe and comfortable asking them. We've guided the kids through the other developmental stages, and I feel we owe it to them to be there to assist with this stage as well. There is a tremendous responsibility on our part to provide appropriate information and direction for children at this stage in their lives, as it forms their attitudes toward sexuality and their feelings about sex in general. By having an accepting and open attitude, they will have less guilt associated with sexuality. Setting the stage now for positive attitudes toward sex will allow your children to have those positive feelings as adults.
If, on the other hand, you make sexuality a shameful, hush-hush topic, then your children will learn to associate sexuality with shame and embarrassment. And if your children have questions at this stage and do not feel comfortable asking you, then who will provide the answers for them? The misinformation they get from their friends can ruin their lives with unwanted pregnancies. It can also lead to them contracting diseases that can last a lifetime (and even prove fatal). We need to take the time to explain the facts, answer questions, and aid them in developing a healthy attitude about sexuality.
Instilling in our children a healthy attitude about sex is a great gift to give them. It will allow them to express their love with the person they love without feelings of guilt or shame. The terms you use with them, also, are as important as the information you give them. If you use the words you used when they were younger, your children may feel belittled, or they may feel the information is for babies and not for them. Using the correct terms and explaining the terminology will give you greater credibility, and you will gain more respect from them, than if you try to use the "cute" terms.
The facts you provide should include information about masturbation. You've given them the freedom to explore other areas of their bodies as they've developed — now you need to give them the freedom to explore this area as well. Masturbation allows for the release of the sexual tension they feel, and it allows them to determine what kinds of stimulation they like and what they do not like — the areas they like stimulated and the areas they do not. Eventually, this will also allow them to learn the masturbation pace they like, which will help them learn to delay their orgasm — and learning to delay their pleasure will give them the ability to make sure their partner later in life has a chance to achieve their pleasure, too.
Discussing masturbation with your children can be difficult — and if you haven't prepared for it, it will probably be an uncomfortable discussion. Preplanning the conversation is important; thinking about what you want to say and how you want to say it will make for an easier time. Explain that masturbation is a healthy normal activity; mention that probably all of their friends will masturbate, and that you understand they will masturbate, too. You probably won't need to say a lot about technique, except to say there are many ways to do it. Practice saying what you want to discuss out loud, so you can hear yourself using the words and phrases. This will make you more relaxed when you're discussing it later with your children.
This is also is a good time to discuss privacy. Tell them you understand as they grow up and their bodies change that they may want more privacy. Let them know you'll respect their right to privacy by honoring closed doors. Offering to place a lock on their bedroom door will show you mean what you say. Respecting their privacy also means that if you notice stains on underwear or other clothing, or if there's an increased use of tissues, lotions, or Vaseline, that you won't mention it. Keeping those supplies available and replenished will show, in a quiet way, that you know what they are doing and approve.
When you start this discussion, make sure you're in a place comfortable for both of you. Also, be sure it's a location where you will not be disturbed by distractions, such as TV or the radio. Starting out with small talk and moving into the discussion can also be helpful. In starting the actual discussion, you may want to stress that you know this could be an uncomfortable topic but that you will not make any judgments or react negatively. Additionally, explain that you feel it's important to have this discussion, and explain why.
During the talk, make sure to give your children plenty of time to express themselves. They may want to voice an opinion or ask questions — and if you do not allow them time, it becomes a lecture and not a discussion. Also, flying through the talk gives your children the impression that you do not really mean what you are saying — that you just want to get it over with, or that you are really uncomfortable with the topic. Discussing sexuality in a relaxed way, and really listening to what your child is saying during the discussion, will make it a successful talk.
Close the discussion with an agreement that the child will come to you if he or she has questions. This will make further discussion easier. It's a good idea to provide some reading materials; for males, for example, I recommend The What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras [Newmarket Press]. Pointing them to online resources (such as JackinWorld) may also prove helpful; depending on the relationship you have with your child, you may want to try looking at the page together. During the closing, reaffirm the agreement to respect privacy. End on a positive note by saying, "Is there anything else you would like to talk about or discuss?" You may be surprised at what other topics your child may want to bring up.
Having an open discussion on masturbation sets the stage for the discussion of sex later. If your children know you are willing to discuss things with them, and that you have non-judgmentally done so before, makes it much easier for them to come to you if they're concerned about something. Open, honest, and effective communication can only enhance your relationship with your children.
In closing, I would like to say that I hope everyone takes the time to have a discussion with his or her children about masturbation. However, educating ourselves first is the key to having a positive dialog. If the child asks something you do not have an answer for, don't be afraid — it's fine to say, "I'm not sure, but I'll find out the answer for you." Providing a relaxed environment with an open attitude will help to make this discussion a success — and allowing your children to explore this last area of their development will help them to be healthy and happy adults.
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Last day of school!
During the last day of school we took this photo with our temporary-chinese-teacher before we left. 4SA5(2005) guys just right click and save this picture!
What Kind Of Seducer Are You ?
Your Seduction Style: Fantasy Lover |
 You know that ideal love that each of us dreams of from childhood? That's you! Not because you posess all of the ideal characteristics, but because you are a savvy shape shifter. You have the uncanny ability to detect someone's particular fantasy... and make it you. You inspire each person to be an idealist and passionate, and you make each moment memorable Even a simple coffee date with you can be the most romantic moment of someone's life By giving your date exactly what he or she desires, you quickly become the ideal lover. Your abilities to make dreams come true is so strong, that you are often the love of many people's lives. Your ex's (and even people you have simply met or been friends with) long to be yours. No doubt you are the one others have dreamed of... your biggest challenge is finding *your* dream lover. |
Thursday, November 10, 2005
Eva Longoria's Brazilian love-life
Eva Longoria says her Brazilian wax boosts her sex life.
The 'Desperate Housewives' beauty, who is dating basketball star Tony Parker, claims the extreme bikini wax is worth the pain - because it improves her prowess in the bedroom.
She revealed to America's Cosmopolitan magazine: "It makes sex better
"Believe me, the first time I did it, the technician did half, and I was like 'Stop!' She said, 'Sit down, I have to finish' But then it gets easier. The more you do it, the less hair grows back. But yeah, I love it. I swear by it
"Every woman should try a Brazilian wax once. And then the sex they have afterward will make them keep coming back"
Eva, who plays cheating Gabrielle Solis in the hit show, recently confessed she didn't have an orgasm until she was 26. The 30-year-old beauty revealed: "I didn't have my first one until I was twenty-six
"It was that recent. Before that it was like, 'I think I did'. But when I finally did have one, I was like, 'What's going on with my body? Oh, my God!!!!!'"
Soccer Wives second thread
After the great responds from my viewers,I've decided to make a second thread but its fewer this time but HOTTER...
Birmingham's David Dunn is porking Sammy Winward......Lucky b*st*rd
Figo and his wife Helena
Jamie Redknapp's Missus, Louise.
Collean is shagging Monkey boy @ United(rooney)
Birmingham's David Dunn is porking Sammy Winward......Lucky b*st*rd
Figo and his wife Helena
Jamie Redknapp's Missus, Louise.
Collean is shagging Monkey boy @ United(rooney)
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
Soccer Wives
Having all the luxury of a footballer, a gorgeous wife is unevitable.
They're just HOT!
Sylvie Van der Vaart attends her first match in Hamburg, where husband Rafael is playing.
Dutch star Rafael van der Vaart tied the knot with fiancee and MTV Europe moderator Sylvie Meiss
Ronaldo's former fiancee Daniella Cicarelli.
Oliver Kahn's scandal girlfriend
Phil Neville with his wife Julie.
Raul shows up with his stunning wife
Linda Evangelista married eccentric French goalkeeper Fabien Barthez
Christian Karembeu's gorgeous model wife Adriana
Thierry Henry and his girlfriend Claire
Clint Mathis with Rachel Perry
Arsenal left back Ashley Cole's gal Cheryl Tweedy
Former Bayern Munich captain Thomas Helmer recently married girlfriend actress Yasmina Filali
Bayern defender Robert Kovac and his wife
Bayern Munich captain Michael Ballack and his wife Simone
Azzurri star Francesco Totti makes an honest woman of new bride Hilary Blasi
They're just HOT!
Sylvie Van der Vaart attends her first match in Hamburg, where husband Rafael is playing.
Dutch star Rafael van der Vaart tied the knot with fiancee and MTV Europe moderator Sylvie Meiss
Ronaldo's former fiancee Daniella Cicarelli.
Oliver Kahn's scandal girlfriend
Phil Neville with his wife Julie.
Raul shows up with his stunning wife
Linda Evangelista married eccentric French goalkeeper Fabien Barthez
Christian Karembeu's gorgeous model wife Adriana
Thierry Henry and his girlfriend Claire
Clint Mathis with Rachel Perry
Arsenal left back Ashley Cole's gal Cheryl Tweedy
Former Bayern Munich captain Thomas Helmer recently married girlfriend actress Yasmina Filali
Bayern defender Robert Kovac and his wife
Bayern Munich captain Michael Ballack and his wife Simone
Azzurri star Francesco Totti makes an honest woman of new bride Hilary Blasi
Monday, November 07, 2005
MANCHESTER UNITED v CHELSEA, 1-0 Sun 6 Nov 2005
Darren Fletcher (centre) is congratulated after puttting United ahead
Darren Fletcher ensured Manchester United inflicted Barclays Premiership leaders Chelsea's first defeat of the season at Old Trafford.
After spending almost the entire second half back-pedalling furiously, United emerged victorious with Fletcher’s first-half header proving enough to end Chelsea’s 40-match unbeaten record.
Unlike Arsenal, whose 49-game run bit the dust on the same ground last year, Chelsea accepted their defeat with grace. Beaten not by a team of greater quality, but by one who would not lose.
They may have suffered a rare reverse in midweek and won only once in their last four games but Chelsea had every right to swagger into Old Trafford.
By contrast, United had seriously under-performed in defeats to Middlesbrough and Lille in the past week
Yet, as Jose Mourinho is acutely aware, in football, triumph and disaster are only ever 90 minutes away and as the Chelsea coach headed down the tunnel to deliver his half-time team talk, he was suddenly facing opposition far removed from the one which lined up before the game.
It would be a harsh judge of Chelsea’s performance to say the hosts deserved their interval lead but equally, United were a match for Mourinho’s men.
What they could not match in style, the Red Devils made up for in effort and direct running. In delivering long balls over the top, they also appeared to hit on an area of Chelsea weakness and Paul Scholes sent a shot whistling just wide after Wayne Rooney had chased down one long punt forward before cutting a fine pass back to his former England team-mate.
The direct route to goal also brought Chelsea their best chance of the opening period, which came about courtesy of a sublime piece of skill from Didier Drogba.
Having got behind Rio Ferdinand, the Ivory Coast striker brought Frank Lampard’s 50-yard ball down with a one magnificent touch before just failing to beat Edwin van der Sar with his first-time lob.
A thrilling encounter, living up to the match of the season billing, was only lacking a goal and Fletcher duly provided it.
The Scot does not score often – and his first of this season took plenty of time to enter the net after he had arrived at the far post to meet a Cristiano Ronaldo cross with an effort which had Petr Cech in trouble as soon as it left his head.
As he emerged for the second half, Ferguson knew enough about the attitude of champions to be acutely aware of what Chelsea were about to throw at his team.
Yet the barrage of attacks might have been avoided if Ruud van Nistelrooy had been able to lash home the 10-yard volley Fletcher set up with his neat knock-back.
Instead, the Dutchman blazed over, leaving Chelsea free to attack from every angle.
Drogba again proved the man to fear. The Blues striker saw his stabbed effort roll agonisingly wide after taking a deflection off Mikael Silvestre and it was Drogba’s initial shot Lampard was trying to force home when Edwin van der Sar made an excellent close-range save.
At times United were pinned in their own half for minutes on end but when Asier del Horno blasted an eight-yard volley over midway through the half, the realisation dawned this was not to be Chelsea’s day.
An audible gasp went round the ground when the fourth official raised a number four to indicate the minutes to be added on.
But try as they might, Chelsea could not break United’s stubborn resistance.
After having a bad Sejarah(history) test,this result made me smile and I'm glad to be a ManU fan!
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Thanks for the comment (from Japanese Encounter Post)
Dear Kelvin Yorke,
Thanks for your comment Kelvin! I appreciate it. May I ask you "Kia Ora" is from which language?
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