Thursday, November 17, 2005

"If You Don't Feel Comfortable Approaching Women..."

If you don't feel 100 percent comfortable withapproaching women right's totally okay. Don't let it stop yourself from doing it. The only thing you have to fear is fear itself.

A boxing champion has once said that even the greatest boxer wakes up in fear on the day of a tournament. But the difference between a champion and a boxer-wannabe is that the champion gets into the ring IN SPITE OF HIS FEAR.

The loser just quits.

Don't try to "repress" your fears. Be the champion and fight on! The bottom line're never a loser until you quit and give up or start blaming other people or things such as shyness.

Too many guys don't do anything because they're too afraid to. Or they want to wait until they're "more confident".

Don't be one of them. Go out NOW and start DOING!

It's like what they say in the marines, "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger."

If you learn to look at the BIGGER PICTURE (of yourself picking up the skills to become a master at dating) and NOT WORRY about the outcome of an encounter with a particular woman,then you'll see how every approach and every date is essentially just another TRAINING SESSION.

Don't let "fear" get into the way. A friend of mine once told me that he was scared when he went away to bootcamp and got"chewed out" the first time. But he eventually got out of bootcamp as a more confident and more confident man - and he had managed to pick up many skills that would be valuable to him for the rest of his life.

Speaking of skills, your "fear" won't affect the outcomeof a situation with a woman. In the boxing ring, ultimately it's the SKILL of the champion boxer that wins him the match. He WINS in spite of his fear. He analyzes his own mistakes and turns his weak areas into his strengths. That's what you should be doing!

Remember: "Confidence" comes from "competency", which in turn comes from PRACTICE!

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